We spend so little time getting to know ourselves. The only way to know oneself is to spend time with oneself: spend time introspecting. Find out why you behave the way you do. Face your insecurities. Look them in the eye and watch them disappear. Figure out why you are so messed up. Understand your strengths and acknowledge your weaknesses. Pain and introspection are the only two ways to grow. Let pain motivate you to introspect.